Such Is Life

I'll be the first to admit, that when left unattended, my mind will venture into forbidden territory. I generally catch myself before wandering too far, but there are times when the attraction to the uncharted adventure reels me in like Lewis and Clark.

There was a time in my life when I preferred predictable exploration. That is, having some element of risk, but having a good idea of the out come. But, I've come to find that there is more excitement in simply allowing things to follow an unscripted course. 

Relationships can be that way. There could always be some risk involved. We would all like to experience the exciting emotional rush of new love, knowing that there will be a fairy tale ending, and that everyone lives happily ever after. But, in reality, there is always the risk of the unknown. Even with the best planned journey, there are unknown factors that could, at any point along the way, cause a detour. 

Sometimes, we just have to throw caution to the wind and, like the NIKE slogan says, just go for it. The experience alone can greatly outweigh any risk of the adventure. I've found that new adventures can awaken you to a much different world. Sure, there is that element of the unknown, but we can enjoy the ride, and make necessary adjustment when needed

The Blame Game

          I was talking to a friend not long ago and it was the same thing I have heard a million times from her, "If it wasn't for so and so or such and such I would be happy".  And as she continued to rant and rave all I could think was.
        She is clueless! Completely and utterly clueless! She does something; it goes haywire and then she looks around for some scapegoat to blame it on! Just for being there! Well, tough luck Bozo... Your own mistakes were your own undoing! I couldn't have been more successful in ruining it if I tried!
      Did I say this out loud to her?  Of course not, I am just not that kind of person. What I did tell her though was that being angry and blaming everyone else because you're unhappy is not going to help matters and it is just wasted energy. The choices you have made have led you to this spot and it can't be blamed on anyone but yourself. Well needless to say she was not in the frame of mind to think reasonably but whatcha gonna do. *shrugs*
       I learned a long time ago that you can't rely on anyone else to pick you up and fix whatever it is that is wrong or troubling you. That is your responsibility.

   "All blame is a waste of time. No matter how much fault you find with another, and regardless of how much you blame him, it will not change you. The only thing blame does is to keep the focus off you when you are looking for external reasons to explain your unhappiness or frustration. You may succeed in making another feel guilty about something by blaming him, but you won't succeed in changing whatever it is about you that is making you unhappy." -Wayne Dyer

Change and Perception

Change sucks. It's uncomfortable, unwanted, and hard to deal with. Well, at least that's what most people tend to think. Right now, in this particular situation, I think I fit into that category, too. Normally, I think that change is good--necessary even. But, today, I say "Aaaah!"

How is it that one day everything looks one way and the next--BOOM! Everything seems so different? No explanation, no clear-cut reason, no real foundation, just a bunch of guesses, maybes, could-be's, and fictionalized reasons floating around in your head.

I don't know, maybe it's just one's perception of reality that changes. Maybe, things haven't really changed at all...maybe; the only thing that has really changed is your realization of how the situation is. Hmmm. That's a definite possibility. Perception: the way that one views life or a given situation. Therefore, I guess my reality isn't really your reality. It couldn't be, could it? Trippy concept.

Anyone ever have that experience? That feeling? You thought one thing for a given amount of time and then, suddenly, awake to a (perceived) different reality? How did you find out if you were right? How did you make sense of it all? I'm curious.